Are you planning on getting married within the next year? Are all your thoughts and attention focused on planning the big day? Most couples who enter into marriage pour all their energy and resources into having the perfect wedding day but put little or no thought into how they will have a happy, lasting marriage. In fact, many people who enter into marriage still have unresolved problems, questions, fears, and doubts about their union, but still take the plunge anyway – and hope for the best.
Most of us can’t imagine how two people who are so “in love” can end up in divorce. We don’t plan on having a bad marriage or think about divorce when we say our “I do’s”. In fact, we think the exact opposite. We believe that we have what it takes to have a happy, healthy, lasting marriage. That’s why we get married. But do we really have what it takes?
Unfortunately, statistics show that 50% of marriages end up in divorce. And of the 50% who stay together, half of these couples are unhappily married (we see many of them in counselling). If we come from a family of divorce, the chances of divorce are even greater. The small issues that couples have during courtship become full-blown issues in marriage. Time doesn’t make them better. And having kids seems to compound the problem. Marriage isn’t the “happily ever after” we envisioned.
Brentwood Counselling Centre can help. We are specialized in pre-marital counselling services – from group workshops to one-on-one sessions with a counsellor. We utilize inventories and tools to help you become aware of potential pitfalls and blindspots in your relationship. The goal is not to scare you, but to empower you to be proactive in building a strong foundation early in your marriage. Through personalized testing we analyze the strengths and weaknesses in your relationship and provide the tools and skills to maintain a healthy marriage. Furthermore, we help you to understand why some marriages succeed and others fail. You will gain hands on experience in learning proven methods of communication and conflict resolution. We examine all major areas of marriage, including: family of origin issues, in-laws, finances, intimacy and sex, parenting, personality differences, spirituality, and more.
Contact Brentwood Counselling Centre today to learn how we can equip you for success.